October Reflections from Lois Hermann
Are you disappointed in the way some people handle compassion amidst adversity? In times when kindness is needed most, many seem to lash out in anger, judgment, or spite. Sadly, they have lost touch with their own humanity—their heart, their sensitivity, and their compassion.
Our beloved Jesus reminds us to bless them, for they know not what they do. That guidance is timeless, yet equally important is protecting our own hearts from their toxicity. As the Desiderata so wisely counsels: “Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.” Indeed, we must bless them, release them, and guard our own spirit.
Yet, what about the disappointments that come from those closer to us—family, friends, or colleagues? Have you ever questioned someone’s lack of sensitivity, ability, or follow-through? At times, our disappointment arises less from their actions, and more from the expectations we place upon them. When we remember that people are always doing the best they can with the skills, awareness, and circumstances they have in the moment, we can let go and allow them to simply be.
Personality Styles
I once attended a fascinating presentation on personality styles that gave me tremendous clarity about people in my life. To this day, this simple awareness helps me adjust expectations and appreciate others’ gifts. Here’s a short, playful summary:
- Squares – Meticulous organizers who thrive on detail, numbers, and sequence. They can become trapped in analysis and struggle with big-picture vision.
- Circles – Warm nurturers and caregivers who love connection. They often overcommit in their eagerness to please, sometimes leaving promises unfinished.
- Triangles – Practical managers who see the whole picture and get things done. They excel in structure but may lack spark for new creative ideas.
- Squiggles – Free-spirited creatives who bring color, joy, and play. They’re rarely on time and often forget follow-through, yet they infuse life with fun.
Each style is valuable, yet each has limits. You wouldn’t expect a square with alphabetized spices to invent something groundbreaking, nor a squiggle to show up punctually every time. Just as we cherish cats for their cat-like ways and dogs for their dog-like ways, people shine when they are free to be themselves.
Releasing Expectations
When we release unrealistic expectations, we transform disappointment into appreciation. By surrounding ourselves with a variety of personalities and honoring their unique gifts, we create a harmonious blend of strengths that enriches our journey.
This month, I invite you to practice letting go of expectations and embrace the beauty of what is. Notice how your energy lifts when you remove heartless people from your life and for those close to you, practice trading disappointment for gratitude.
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May Your Life Be Blessed with Gratitude,
Lois Hermann